21 Days to Make a Habit? A Few Tips to Stick to It!

We've all heard it.  "It takes 21 days to make or break a habit".  Does it really work?  I've always wondered what started such a saying so I did a little digging.  Here's what I found.

Where it Started

As far as I could find it began in the 50's with a plastic surgeon who noticed that the phantom pain from certain surgeries would begin to subside about 21 days post-op.  He would go on to write a book about the idea and years down the line, like a decades long game of telephone, self-help gurus began latching on to the idea as a catch phrase.  They started saying "21 days to make a habit" forgetting the initial part of the idea that it takes 21 days to BEGIN noticing the change.

You see, the 21 day mark is where you start to notice that the new thing really has the ability to become a part of you.  You begin to make peace with it.  But you are not adept at it just yet.  Come on, did you really think you could quit smoking, give up soda, run 3 miles a day, read each night, stop using your Facebook after 7pm (yeah, right!), etc. in just 21 days?!  The only research done around this area has shown that even the simplest of habits takes about 66 days to build!  Depending on what you are trying to accomplish, it could take a year or more.  Ask anyone who has successfully quit smoking, gotten sober from anything, or mastered any skill, it takes constant work to stay successful.

What You Can Do

Mastery of something takes a lifetime!  But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't start.  It does mean though, that you must be in it for the long haul.  Creating a good habit or breaking a bad one is a journey, not a destination.  Rather than try it only to fall off the wagon on day 22 just because you made it 21 days, commit to it for the long haul.  Just know that after 21 days of doing it (or not doing  it) you'll BEGIN to notice it really might become a part of you.

Here are a 3 tips to get/keep you going:

1) Don't get fooled by the Honeymoon Phase.  The first few days may seem easy, like this is going to be no sweat.  It might be that way (depending on what you are tackling), be prepared for a fight, and soon.

2) Win the fight thru moments.  How?  We are the sum of our thoughts.  Kill off negative self talk and remind yourself why you wanted to this.  Give yourself positive self talk and focus on success in that moment.  You may not always be able to control the end result, but you can control your attitude and your effort when you want to give up the most.  Lose a fight thru moment, and you'll give yourself permission to lose again and again.  FIGHT THRU!

3) Don't let hiccups become road blocks.  So you lost a fight thru moment.  To borrow a phrase from my days as a hockey goalie, "you gotta have a short term memory".  It means if you let one by, don't let it be the reason you let the next one by.  Give yourself room to grow and get better.  You're not perfect, but you are trying to be better which goes back to the fight thru moments.  Here comes another.  Are you going to fight to win?  Or are you just putting on a show but have decided to lose already?  Remember, you can control your attitude and your effort in these moments.  Use it to propel yourself toward success.

Resolutions are hard...

We're 16 days deep into 2017.  Are you sticking with your resolution?  Have you started to slip?  Having worked in the fitness industry now for over 10 years, usually about now motivation begins to wain and attendance in gyms start to slide.  Commitment to your new diet has already hit a stumbling block or two.  That book you said you would get read has gone a day or two with out having turned a page (ok, that may be my confession).  The homework for that class you signed up for is starting to weigh on you.

Resolutions...crap their hard.

That's the thing about something like a "New Year Resolution", you start out on fire and sputter out rather quickly.  Why?  I mean, you were full of gusto just a few days ago, why did the passion fade away so quickly?

Much like a passing fad, the passion for the event or goal lives in the novelty of it.  The idea seems great because you know you'll be better for it, but you rapidly grow weary of that idea as life takes it toll on your motivation.

Motivation.  Such a dirty little word.  Motivation is fickle.  It seems hopelessly lost when you need it most, then POOF, there it is at 11pm when you're trying to sleep.  Stupid sleep.  I guess I really didn't need it anyway.

Here's the secret: forget motivation.  What you need is discipline.  In order to have discipline, you must have a written out (or typed up) plan that lays out what you will do in spite of motivations presence.  It's a prescription that must be followed that helps you take the steps you said you would take in order to get you to the goal you want to achieve.

Screw motivation.  It will always leave you in the worst moments like a bad boyfriend/girlfriend.  Discipline is the one to marry.  It will see you thru the good times and the bad.

Discipline is what makes dreams come true.

Swimsuit Season, Weight Loss, Nutrition, and Supplements...Pt. 2

So, last week I talked to you about your nutrition.  In the past I have given complicated formulas and long drawn out explanations.  Last week I made it simple and straight forward and you need to get that going if your ever going to reach your weight loss goals.  No amount of supplements or exercise will ever trump having a dialed-in diet, you have to fuel your body well FIRST.

All that said, everyone wants to know what I take, what THEY should take and what works the best when it comes to supplements.  So, without further ado, here are my supplement recommendations.

Part 2: Supplements

First I'll say this; there's really no "best" supplement.  All of them from every brand have their place and purpose and different folks react differently to different formulations, it's why there are so many different companies and products out there.  There are some I would call "bad", but that's because I'm not into taking banned substances while some folks don't mind it as long as they get the results they want.  For most folks, a simple stack based on your goals will suit you just fine.

So let's start with maybe my least favorite, but most asked question: what do you take?  Here is what I take and when I take it.

First Thing in the Morning: Driven Whey Protein, Allmax CarbIon, Optimum Nutrition AmiN.O. Energy, Extreme Endurance

During A.M. Cardio: Driven Amino

With Breakfast: Animal Pack, Driven Fish Oil

Pre-Workout: Driven PreWOD

Post Workout:  Driven Whey Protein, Allmax CarbIon

Right before Bed: Extreme Endurance

Basically what I take is what I would call a "Performance Stack".  I'm not concerned about losing weight or adding mass, I'm focused on performing well.  I do CrossFit, Spartan Race, Battle Frog, Warrior Dash, and a myriad of other sporty endeavors that require me to do a lot in a diverse range of athletic ability so that is my focus.

So, what else is out there?  What if I have different goals?  What should I do?  Should I take a fat burner?  Should I still take protein?  Here are some generic stacks that I put together:

- Performance Stack: What I take.  Guys or gals can do this one.  Amounts for protein are size and workout frequency dependent.

- Weight Loss Stack:  Driven Whey Protein, Allmax CarbIon, MultiVitamin, Driven Fish Oil, Driven PreWOD, Driven Amino, Fat Burner

For this stack pick a Men's or Women's specific multi to fill in nutritional gaps.  I like RAW One in this case for many reasons, but mostly because it fills the job and is inexpensive comparatively. You can also check out Optimum Nutrition for their Men's and Women's multi as well as Irwin Naturals.  Filing in nutritional gaps is important and a multivitamin does that job well.  As for the fat burner, my favorites here are QuadraLean from RSP, Lipo6 Black Ultra Concentrate (there's a men's and women's), and MusclePharm Shred Matrix.  Again, the amounts of the protein, CarbIon, and Amino are workout frequency dependent as well as being dependent on the aggressiveness of the weight loss schedule you want to chase.  The PreWOD may also get cutout as some fat burners suggest you not take any other caffeine for the day.

- Mass Add Stack: Driven Whey Protein, Allmax CarbIon, Animal Pack, Driven Fish Oil, Driven PreWOD, Driven Amino, Mass Gainer

Nearly the same stack the weight loss stack, with some MAJOR differences.  No fat burner here, stick with the Animal Pak as a multi, and you now get to choose a mass gain product.  My favorites are Optimum Nutrition Pro Gainer, MHP Up Your Mass, Universal Nutrition Real Gains, and BSN True Mass 1200.

No matter what you do your plan MUST be specified, timed, and CONSISTENT.  That's the key here.  Taking it a few times here and there isn't going to do the trick.  It has to be consistent and done for AT LEAST 90 days before you start seeing results.  And you won't see anything major for near 6 months.  Sorry folks, it's reality.  When you start out you may see some fast change, even with in the first 2-6 weeks and it can be encouraging until you hit the slow down.  Then it can be DIScouraging and you'll feel like you want to quit.  Don't.  Stay the course.  If you couple one of these with a great nutrition schedule your goals will start feeling more and more in reach (see last weeks blog about nutrition).

And here is where I will insert my only sales pitch; if you want to build a personal stack or are interested in purchasing one that I mention in the article, email me at brandon.garcia@crossfitcrossroads.com because in many cases as a gym owner I can leverage some discounts and save you some money.  Also, we offer nutritional guidance so we can figure out the right food and supplements for you.

*A quick note: no, I am not sponsored by Driven Nutrition or any of these companies, I just really like a few of these products.  I chose each of these products based on my experience with them, overall company reputation, and reviews from pros who use them.

Next week, part 3.  The exercise part.  Yes it is necessary.  No I will not tell you you MUST drink the CrossFit kool-aid.  I will tell you some easy ways to WORK toward your goal while you stay focused on your nutrition.

Swimsuit Season, Weight Loss, Nutrition, and Supplements...Pt. 1

Man, it's been a while.  There are so many things in my head I can't even handle it.  I guess I'll start with the thing everyone wants to know about; how do I get skinny/cut/hot for swimsuit season?

Yes it's that season already and the crash dieters and cereal starvers are coming out of the wood work hoping to look good for the summer.  Want to know a secret?  Even I want to "look good" in a swimsuit (I guess board shorts for me, but ya know, same thing).  So how do we get there?  What do we have to do?  This isn't going to be a sarcastic shaming of people who think they know what they're doing or the folks that want the pill and/or the short-cut to the goal (ok, maybe a little).  Instead, I'm really going to talk about what must be done, because after all I am in the business of getting people to their goals.  So here it goes:

Part 1: Weight Loss and Nutrition

Ok folks, here's the hard fact:  you cannot get fitness model ripped in a few short weeks unless you are already fairly close.  And by close I mean 12% body fat for guys and 18% for ladies.  Are you not sure?  Go to any gym and you should be able to get a body fat analysis done for free or fairly cheap, heck, come see me at CrossFit Crossroads and I'll do it for free.

So then, where does that leave us?  First, stop obsessing about your weight.  It's your relative relationship to the gravtational pull of the planet.  On the moon you weight 50 lbs.  What should I be focused on then?  How about feeling confident and looking (and feeling) as good as possible as fast as possible. The truth is a lean, healthy body starts in the kitchen so that's where we're headed first.  Seriously, I know you're probably reading this on your smart phone or tablet so I'll wait...ok ready?  Start in your pantry/cupboards.  See all that processed junk?  The cookies, the Little Debbies, the "healthy" bars you bought so you could have a "healthy" snack or a "healthy" breakfast.  Gather them...and throw them out or give them away.  Seriously.  Don't hide them, you'll find them and eat them, you know you will.  Now, to the fridge.  Same drill.  All the process crap MUST GO!  The "healthy" juice that's all natural and organic...yeah, it's concentrated fruit sugars mixed with water and it's holding you back, get rid of it.  Now, time for a trip to the grocery store.  Here is a list of the foods you are allowed to buy and eat:

-Ground Meats (Must be EXTRA LEAN)
-Lean Meats (Chicken/Turkey Breast, Lean cuts of Beef, Fish)
-Eggs and/or egg whites
-Veggies, any kind fresh or frozen (stay away from canned), get creative, stay diverse, and buy A LOT!!!
-Fruit, a little.  Not too much.  Your veggies should FAR out number your fruits
-Raw nuts and seed (and avocados) these are healthy fats, you'll have a small portion with every meal
-Coconut Oil, this will replace any vegetable/cooking oil you have (yes even olive oil and all the other "healthy" oil you have).
-Potatoes, Sweet Potatoes, Yams, Beets .  These are starches.  You'll have them basically once a day so you don't need much, but you need some.
-Greens aka Spinach, lettuce, kale, cabbage, water cress, bok choy...these will be great fillers to help you feel fuller and you can have as much as you can stomach.
-Spices that you like or want to try (as long as they're not full of sodium or other fillers)

Not too bad right?  All healthy stuff and now you have to build your meals.  Your meals should look like this: Guys - 1.5-2 Big Handfuls of Veggies, 2 thumb size servings of fat (nuts, seeds, avocado), 1.5-2 fist size portions of protein (aka meat/eggs).  Ladies, 1-1.5 Big Handfuls of Veggies, 1.5 thumb size servings of fat, 1-1.5 fist size portions of protein (aka meat/eggs).  In either case you can switch out half your veggies for a fruit at breakfast, and half for a starch (aka potatoes and the like) at dinner.  Use the coconut oil to do do any cooking you need to do.  A little goes a long way so you should rarely need more than a tablespoon.  Spices are your friend, use them often with a shake of salt...notice I said A, as in 1...maybe 2.

Also, STOP DRINKING YOUR CALORIES!!!  That latte you just had, it has more sugar than a soda.  The only liquid you should be drinking is water.  Seriously.  No milk (dairy, soy, almond, or otherwise...side thought, this also means no yogurt, cottage cheese, or other dairy or dairy type products), no more lattes, frappacinos, "green" shakes from that healthy juice place.  No liquid calories.  Stop it. Now.  NOW!  No diet, zero calorie, fake sugar bull crap either.  "But what about coke zero/powerade zero/sugar free mocha-choka-bull-crap?"  Nope.  STOP.  Fake sugar is worse for you than the real stuff and the real stuff isn't good either.  Water.  It's the only thing you should be drinking.  You get one exception; coconut water.  Raw coconut water.  Not coconut water blended with or added to anything.  Water or coconut water.  That's it.

Got it?  Sounds restrictive and exclusive.  It is.  It has to be to re-teach you how to eat the way should be anyway.

Plan your meals.  Go shopping on Sunday come home and make your meals.  All of them.  Breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the week and put them in Tupperware and fridge them so it's done and you have no excuses.  Do this with NO variance for 90 days.  I double-dog dare you.  If you're about to ask, "well but what about (insert food/ingredient here)?"  Is it on the list of approved foods?  That answer will tell you if you can have it.  Don't bull crap yourself, be real, don't make excuses and don't justify it.  For once in your life stick to the plan.

I think that's a great place to start.  Part 1 of this discussion is about nutrition because it's THE MOST important.  If your diet sucks no amount of supplements, fat burners, protein powders, OR exercise can get you where you want to be.  They are all certainly a part of it and can and do help, but get your diet in line first.  We'll talk about supplements, what I take and what I recommend next week.  So be ready for part 2, it'll be a doozy.  But first, get the food you in line and under control.  It will take discipline.  It will be hard.  It will be...WORTH IT.

This...is MY Story...

We ALL have a story.  Stories fuel us.  It's why music changes our mood so quickly.  It's why movies and T.V. shows inspire us.  We ALL have a story.  Even those of us that are becoming or have become leaders.  Even me.  This...is MY story (a short version anyway).

I spent most of my adolescences as an athlete.  A good one.  Not a great one.  But, a good one.  I was a national level Judoka.  I was an State Championship placer in 5A High School Wrestling.  I was a decent football player.  Although I had some "natural" athletic ability, most of what I was good at was because I worked very hard both on the mat/field and in the weight room.

I was fortunate enough to be granted a spot on the University of Northern Colorado wrestling team when I left for college in August of 2000, but I had to work hard for that too.  And that's where it all spun out of control.

Although I was a good athlete and a good student, life at home was...well...not good.  It was violent.  Abusive. And in-turn it made me a generally awkward kid that got bullied a lot in spite of being a strong, well accomplished athlete.  Depression was a real thing.  College made it worse.  I nearly failed my entire first semester of college.  My family fell apart while I was in the middle of my first semester.  6 weeks into being a college wrestler (the only thing keeping me sane), I got injured.  I was done as a collegiate athlete.  No athletics, rough home life, no friends to lift me up while I was 50 miles away from a home I didn't want to go to anyway.  I was done.  I made the "freshman 15" look silly.  I gained 75 lbs. in 8 months.  I wallowed in my misery.  I hated life.  I wanted to die.

I tried to get back in shape a dozen times over the next 6 years only to fail because it was just "too hard".  Working out and eating well had always been easy, until now.  I carried too many other burdens on my shoulders, working out and eating right was just too hard...so I thought.

Fast forward to 2007.  I have finally finished my double degree (not double major, double degree, it sucks more but I was glutton for punishment) and I got a job using my degree managing a local fitness center in Eaton, CO.  It didn't take long for me to realize, I needed to apply what I knew or face the fact that I'm a hypocrite.  So I set out on a journey.  I was 255lbs and 34% body fat.  I trained for a Sprint Triathlon.  I lost 40lbs over about 6 months.  I hated it.  I hate running.  I made myself do it.

I kept telling myself I was a liar if I didn't do this.  So I kept going.  I kept pushing.  Then life and depression got a hold of me again.  I gained 20 lbs. back.  I restarted.  My wife and I decided to run a half marathon.  I lost 30 lbs.  Life hits again.  I gained 10 lbs. back.  Then I found MMA.  The place where wrestlers go to "go pro".  I busted my butt and chose to fight at 185 lbs...a weight I hadn't seen since 2000...this is now 2011.  After the fight I jumped right back to 205 lbs (I did win by the way, check it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cm0WfblLL-A).  I was following Men's Health and Muscle and Fitness type diets that had me yo-yoing and not finding any real happiness with myself as an athlete or as a man.

Then it happened.  I found "it".  CrossFit.  I really felt like an athlete again.  It kicked my butt and I wanted more.  The diet was easy.  Eat what you want as long as it's real food, not processed junk.  I was sold.  I couldn't be happier.  I hover between 195-205.  I'm ok with that.  I look good.  I feel GREAT!  I've started competing again.  I am now going to chase the elites in the Spartan Race.

I have learned many lessons in my adult fitness journey that spans 15 years.  The biggest of which is this:  the claims that you can look like a fitness model in just 12 weeks is absolute GARBAGE!!!  I did the P-90X program to a "T".  It didn't even come close.  You body only BEGINS making physiological change at the 12 week mark and only if you're consistent.  Your fitness is a life choice, not a 90 day challenge.  Can a short term challenge get you started, yes.  But if you want real, sustainable results, be prepared for an up and down journey.  The thing CrossFit and now Obstacle Racing has taught me, get some folks around you who will go through this journey with you, it makes it better!

The whole working out and eating right thing is hard...until you realize you're worth it.

Then...oh then...it's the best thing you'll do.

The top 2 pics are me now, as of this afternoon, 12/7/15.  The shots below that are me in 2007.

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The Best Supplements on the Planet

Okay.  I finally caved.  I am going to talk about what everyone wants me to talk about (if you know me, you know I hate doing what everyone wants).  I am going to tell you what I think are the best supplements are for any category.  Yes, websites like bodybuilding.com have ratings for this and give away consumer voted awards for it every year.  But these are all based on user experience and have no science to back up why any of these brands make the best stuff or which product is actually better than another.  That's where I come in.  And without further ado, the best supplements on the planet are...

Food.

That's right.  Food.  Nope, not the stuff you bought at GNC that "guarantees" you'll gain 100lbs of muscle and look like a fitness model in just 6 weeks.

Sorry, the $60 fat burner that guy just sold you has nothing on good ol' fashioned food.

What's that?  But Herbalife/Shakeology/ViSalus/AdvoCare changed your life?  Nope.  Sorry.  Still bullcrap.  The product didn't change your metabolism.

The cleanse you just did.  The wrap thing you just tried...it's all smoke and mirrors.  I know.  I can prove it.  I have proven it.  Over and over, to client after client.  The product you use makes basically no difference what-so-ever.  What matters is this:  when you use those products it (for the most part) makes you stick to a regimented eating plan that is typically weighed and measured amounts of...food.

So why is the supplement industry a $37 billion dollar a year industry?  Is there science behind what they do?  What about all the "results"?

The answers to those questions are as follows: Marketing.  Yes.  They speak volumes to making sure you buy the product (see: Marketing).  90% of what these companies care about is sales.  To accomplish this they only show you success stories.  They don't show you the 99.9% of people who use the product under the pretense that if they just use it their fitness/wellness/happiness with their body image will change yet it never happens.

Why?  Because the human body needs food.  The right amount of the right kinds.  Your body needs carbohydrates, fats, proteins, vitamins, minerals, and water to function on a daily basis.  That's it.  It gets all of those things from real food.  Not from the $90 tub of powder at the local supplement warehouse, although it may contain some if not most of those things, your body still needs food.  Real, actual food.  In the right ratios, meaning portion control and in many instances meal planning will be essential to accomplishing that (dang!  And you were hoping you could just wing it).

Alright, this is starting to feel like a bit of a bait and switch.  So which supplements really are the best on the planet?  The ones that get you to stick to a program where you eat food and SUPPLEMENT you diet with the products.  That's why they're called SUPPLEMENTS.  As in "in addition to" or "in aid of"  not "in place of" food.  Also, supplements are usually used best in conjunction with others, aka, stacks.  Stacks are not one size fits all and the best way to figure out your best stack is to work with a knowledgeable, reputable trainer, dietitian, or nutritionist (shameless self plug) to get on the right track.

Still want to build a supplement stack?  At CrossFit Crossroads we use Driven Nutrition (drivennutrtion.net) products as well as a few others we have found work well with most people.  Work with one of our degreed and certified coaches to build your stack and we can save you a few dollars instead of buying retail.  We can also help you with that whole "meal plan" thing I was saying might have some importance.  Head to our Coach's Page to contact a coach and get started today.  Mention the blog and get your initial consult for free.  Mic drop.

Brandon's Nutrition Formula

I get asked often "What should I be eating?" Or, "What diet is the best?"  The simple answer to the second is, the one you'll stick to, forever.  Not just for a few weeks or months, but one you can make into a lifestyle.  As for what should you be eating?  Well, here is my recommendation after 10 years of tinkering to find what's simple and effective.  I call it The PaleoFlexZone.

The Paleo Diet

This is arguably...ok no argument, this is THE best tool for teaching you what foods to eat.  The Paleo Diet is restricted to eating veggies, meats, nuts and seeds and fruits.  That's it.  No grains.  No beans (that means peanuts too).  No dairy (milk products).  No artificial (or "natural" labeled) anything.  This is, without question, the best way to teach your body to eat whole, real food basically all the time.  If you find yourself constantly eating from boxes and bags, start here for a while.  It'll learn ya real fast.  It isn't easy, but it is simple and effective.  The draw back here is the totalitarian restrictiveness of this method.  It becomes excessively difficult to stay on point as you try and eat with and around other people.

The Flex Diet (a.k.a. If It Fits Your Macros (IIFYM))

The advantage of the Flex Diet is that it leverages the fact that humans are omnivores and can make energy out of anything we eat.  It tells us that as long as your are hitting your calorie count via making it to your macro-nutrient goals you can control your...wait for it...GAAIIINNNZZZZ!  (I just threw up in my mouth a little).  Meaning your can control your fat loss, muscle growth, and overall performance buy setting specific goals in grams per day of carbohydrates, proteins, and fats and hitting them exact (or as near as possible with out going over) each day.  I hate how bro-sciencey it sounds, but it's backed by actual science and it works without question.  The draw back is that the only restriction it has is caloric.  Although Flex Diet "recommends" eating a clean, healthy diet, many folks who eat this way eat poor quality food because it fits their macros.

The Zone Diet

The Zone Diet has been around since the 1970's.  The whole premise is balance.  Many diets are so carbohydrate biased that getting all of the essential macro and micro nutrients is difficult.  The Zone hands us a macro-nutrient balance of 40-30-30.  40% of your calories come from carbs, 30% from proteins, and 30% from fats.  This is very effective and makes it more possible to get all or most of your carbohydrate calories from vegetables.  This also makes it a great partner for the Paleo diet.  The problem with this diet is the way Dr. Sears set up the "blocks".  Blocks are used to get people to eat good and correct amounts of each macro-nutrient, but the calculations are flawed and out of date.  It also has odd restrictions on it's recommendations of "good" carbs and "bad" carbs.

The PaleoFlexZone

I am a proponent of balance.  Ebbs and flows that allow life to happen well and leave us feeling better than we did the day before.  The combination of these 3 diets gives us, in my estimation, the best balance for how to eat.  Start with the Paleo diet, learn quality foods.  Move to the Zone and learn how to portion those foods.  Add the Flex Diet in to zero in on the absolute numbers to be in real control over the calories going into your body.  The Flex Diet usually sets calories off of 50-55% of calories from carbohydrates on active days, and drops them on inactive days.  The PaleoFlex Zone is this: 1) The bulk of your diet should be as strict Paleo as you can tolerate. 2) Use the 40-30-30 Zone balance with total daily calories based off of .7-1.0 grams of protein per pound you weigh. 3) Use the Flex Diet to track those numbers as a whole, as well as allowing yourself to eat not-paleo when it is difficult to do so or when you're in a social setting (see my blog from August 24th about this).  This means looking at an egg as fats and proteins, not just proteins or milk as carbs, proteins, and fats or oatmeal as carbs and proteins, or...well you get the picture.  It also means allowing yourself to have a meal or snack here or there that is totally not paleo, but you're ok with that.  MyFitnessPal (no affiliation here, it's just what I use to help me, they are not paying me... although, I wish they would) is a great mobile app to help you set your calories and macro balance and then track it very closely.

Doing this takes discipline.  This is simple, but it is not easy at first.  You will struggle with willpower.  You will want to quit.  You will want to skip logging that fun size snickers you just ate, or that handful of skittles, or that "Sugar-Free/Low-Calorie" mocha-choca-bull-crap you just drank.  Tough.  Do it.  Make yourself aware of where your calories are coming from.  Buy a food scale.  Weigh and measure everything that goes in your mouth.

If you want to make a change you have to be willing to do something you have never done before.  You want to lose weight?  Guess what?  You gotta track your food intake (a.k.a. diet) and get your butt off the couch.  You want to learn to play guitar (a personal goal of mine)?  Guess what?  You have to buy a guitar and start learning and practicing.  None of this stuff is easy, but it works and it's worth it.

You should do it because you're worth it.  You are worth more than the handbag you couldn't afford in the first place.  You are worth more than the 8 hour Netflix binge in which you just indulged.  You are worth more than you think.  Are you willing to stop treating your body like a dumpster and more like the high performance machine that it was designed to be on the first place?  Time to dust off the work ethic and get going.

Need help?  Head to www.crossfitcrossroads.com (link is to our coaches page) and contact one of our coaches to get started on a PaleoFlexZone Plan and begin learning how valuable your health really is.